I won't give much explanation to this, except to remind you about that party you went to that one time where everyone wanted to dance, but the DJ kept picking the wrong songs.
To keep that from happening, I've compiled this list - a "cheat sheet" if you will - of the essentials for a dance party where Bollywood music will be played. I've DJ'd some and partied a lot more, and I've seen that you can get a crowd on the dance floor if you play a decent mix of songs from the following groups.
NOTES: I'm keeping an audience of mostly college-age Indians and Indian-Americans in mind here. All named songs on this list are Hindi/Punjabi. Most of this will also work for all-ages parties, but again, it's important to know your audience and listen to what they're telling you. This list is updated to Diwali 2010 - please tell me if I've left off something major.
1. The Songs That Must Be Played
Any and all of these songs will get people on the dance floor. Do not repeat songs unless you get multiple requests to do so. The drunker the crowd, the more you must oblige requests to repeat these songs.
Koi Kahe Kehta Rahe - Dil Chahta Hai
Humma Humma - Bombay
Khaike Paan Banaraswala - Don (new)
Twist - Love Aaj Kal
Munni Badnaam - Dabangg
Mauja Hi Mauja - Jab We Met
Desi Girl - Dostana
Beedi Jalaile - Omkara
Kajra Re - Bunty aur Babli
Jai Ho - Slumdog Millionaire
Pappu Can't Dance - Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na
2. Second Tier Songs
Don't play all those superhits back to back. You'll tire everyone out and keep the energy level so high that you won't be able to sustain it. Mix in some good older favorites that will keep people dancing. Some suggestions are:
Chaiyya Chaiyya - Dil Se
Sajna Ve Sajna - Chameli
Dhoom Machale - Dhoom
Dhoom Again - Dhoom 2
Fanaa - Yuva
Rang De Basanti - Rang De Basanti
Paathshala - Rang De Basanti
Dhol Baje - Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam (depending on the crowd, mix this in AFTER the slow part at the beginning)
3. Recent Danceable Songs
Fill out your playlist with danceable songs from last 3 years. This list is pretty much endless, what with all the remixes and stuff out there these days. Some suggestions are:
Bachna Ae Haseeno - Bachna Ae Haseeno (new version)
Paisa - De Dana Dan
Dhan Te Nan - Kaminey
Genda Phool - Delhi 6
Sajnaji Vaari Vaari - Honeymoon Travels
Jhoom Barabar Jhoom - Jhoom Barabar Jhoom
All Iz Well - 3 Idiots
Zoobi Doobi - 3 Idiots
Prem Ki Naiyya - Ajab Prem Ki Ghazab Kahani
Follow Me - Ajab Prem Ki Ghazab Kahani
Chori Bazari - Love Aaj Kal
Bhootni Ke - Singh is Kingg
Talli Hua - Singh is Kingg
Talli Ho Gayi - Ugly Aur Pagli
Gal Mithi Mithi Bol - Aisha
Humka Peeni Hai - Dabangg
Kambakkht Ishq - Kambakkht Ishq
Uff Teri Ada - Karthik Calling Karthik
Anjaana Anjaani - Anjaana Anjaani
Billo Rani - Goal
You're My Love - Partner
Soni De Nakhre - Partner
Aaj Ki Raat - Don (new)
Dance Pe Chance - Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi
Gazab - Aa Dekhen Zara
Tennu Leke - Jai Veeru
4. Bhangra/UK Bhangra
This is a place where you really need to know your audience. Do they want to hear the latest and greatest, or do they want to hear songs they already know? If you're spinning for a college crowd in US, 99% of the time you can go light on this and don't worry about anything super new unless it's already a super hit.
Suggestions:
Na Na Na Re - Daler Mehndi
Tunak Tunak Tun - Daler Mehndi
Mundiya To Bachke Rahi - Panjabi MC
Kangna - Dr. Zeus
Darshan - B21
Dil Luteya - Jazzy B
Nachange Saari Raat - Stereo Nation
Nahin Jeena - Rishi Rich
Dance With You - Jay Sean
(protip #1: mix these last two, as they're based on the same melody)
5. While we're on the subject of Jay Sean, find the latest danceable mainstream crossover hit, or whatever hip-hop song sampled Bollywood recently, and play it - preferably in the middle of a good mix. Examples of these sorts of songs over the last few years are:
Dance With You - Jay Sean (this is a few years old now but people still like it)
Down - Jay Sean
Jai Ho - Slumdog Millionaire
Addictive - Truth Hurts (also old but college kids like it)
(protip #2: Save this category for the 20s/30s crowd, unless it overlaps with the must-have songs in #1. Naughty hip-hop with a Bollywood sample won't go over well at a family party.)
(protip #3: Crappy Bollywood copies of English songs don't count.)
6. Other Stuff
A) Himesh Reshammiya. Don't ask me why. I don't want to hear it either. But for some reason, when people get into crowds, it works. Try something uptempo from the 2006-2007 Reign of Himesh. Examples: Jhalak Dikhlaja, Tera Suroor
(protip #4: Do not play too much Himesh. This is 2010.)
B) Dance remixes of extremely new, extremely popular ballads. Examples as of November 2010: Pee Loon (Once Upon A Time in Mumbaai), Tere Liye (Prince), Tu Jaane Na (Ajab Prem Ki Ghazab Kahani). REMIXES ONLY. Don't play slow songs. Any well-produced remix of any Atif Aslam song also falls into this category.
This should be enough for one party. Eventually, I am hoping to write posts on Epic Non-Hindi Songs, Bhangra for the Uninitiated, Drunk People Songs, and When Bollywood Gets Dance Music Right -- but for most parties, these categories should be all you need.